“What are your favorite things about spring?”
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Melting snow reveals daffodil tips longing for summer
A robin lands in the trees beckoning her neighbors to join her happy tune
Windows open to let the ghosts of the winter escape hibernation
The signs are all around you….spring will be here soon.
Tulips stand at attention waiting for their marching orders
The aroma of lilacs linger in the air drowning me in absolute bliss
The echo of crickets calling out while bunnies hop across the open meadow
Fireflies dance across fields of clover … spring has arrived.
- Kimberly Travisano
We all have items that we can’t let give up. I have always been one of those women who had to save EVERYTHING. Over time I have worked very hard on trying to let go to some of the things that I really don’t need. This has become extremely important this week as I begin the task of clearing out a home filled with 16 years of marital memories. Moving from a five bedroom home into half of a garage immediately puts things into perspective. Suddenly that coffee grinder that I got a great deal on at the yard sale just doesn’t seem so important.
What I have discovered is that the things that mean the most to me are the things that I connect with the people and places that I love. It’s ultimately the relationships to the people, places and circumstances behind the items not the treasures themselves. It was interesting because a very dear friend of mine posted this exact sentiment going through a similar experience on their own social media page. This realization has allowed me to let go of the clutter of the unnecessary things in my life and focus more on restoring the relationships and the heart of my true treasure.
“Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.”
- Anthony D’Angelo
The past few years of my life have been a bit stressful. A failed marriage, the loss of our home, one child starting preschool, the other child starting middle school, the two year search for permanent employment, the loss of my grandfather…and that’s just the tip of the “iceburg” otherwise known as “my life”. However, I must say, I’ve been rather proud of myself for how well I’ve emotionally kept it together because a few years ago I would have fallen to pieces.
The real challenge for me has been the physical side. The weight has increased, the blood pressure has risen, and the need for a 24/7 massage chair has become increasingly apparent. The emotional breakdown has become internal (I think subconsciously to hide it from my children) and something I am finding I need to not ignore. Fortunately for me, my current assignment has me at a company that takes great strides to take care of the physical and emotional needs of their employees. They have a wellness program which encourages employees to not only take care of themselves, but offers them the tools and incentives to do just that.
Two of the areas I’ve taken advantage of are the onsite coach and the de-stress seminar. Meeting every other week or so has been very helpful to me to allow myself to not only “vent” to a friend about the stresses in my life, but she is an incredible woman who not only “gets it” but has the toolbox of skills to help me meet the challenges head on. I am also finding with the seminar that just taking 15 minutes or so every day to regroup, find your focus, and recharge is invaluable, especially in times of feeling stressed or overwhelmed.
Why do I mention these things? Because I want you consider doing the same thing . Especially with the holiday season quickly approaching, take a small block of time each day for you. Do what you need to relax, recoup and recover. If you aren’t at your best, how can you be at your best for your family and friends?
What a difference a smile makes, a laugh, a hug….it is often the little things in life that mean so much. I have a few friends that will often shoot me a quick note in the morning just saying “good morning” or not texting words, only a smiley face or a teddy bear hug. You never know what the person on the other side of the screen is facing and sometimes the smallest gesture means the world to them. If you feel like sending a hug…don’t think twice….flash that smile and let them know that they mean something to you and that they aren’t alone.
“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.”
– Joseph Campbell
When I thought about the premise for my new blog the thought of helping others through change the way I have been helped over the past few years came to mind. The concepts of starting anew, turning over a new leaf, etc. all came to mind. My first choice for the title of the blog became “turning leaves” and of course it already taken. As I continued to brainstorm, the concepts of leaves and trees led me to some interesting thoughts.
Every tree is unique. Whether it be the color of the leaf, the shape of the branches, the height, the width, the animals nesting in it, each and every tree has unique characteristics that come together to make it a special creation. How true is that also of people? Our looks, our personalities, our thoughts, the experiences we have had, — all these things help to form unique and special creatures unlike any other human being.
Trees also go through a cycle where the leaves form, flourish, then fade and die away – only to be replaced in due time with new growth and more maturity and a more stable trunk upon which to stand. Humans also generate cycles of growth and maturity. We are heartbroken by things at a young age that we may see later in life as trivial, but at the time they are part of our growth and maturity and therefore very important. It is only through the death of these trivial moments, that further growth and a more stable structure upon which to build our future come to fruition.
Another thing to consider is that the timing of this cycle is different for each tree…no tree or person will complete their cycle at the same time, but that doesn’t mean it is not the right time for their own cycle.
Without proper nourishment and pruning, a tree will shrivel and die or become stunted in its growth process. This applies as well in the human world because without letting go of our “shriveled leaves” we cannot thrive and produce the best “fruit” for ourselves. We must allow ourselves to let go of our past and our failures to truly be everything we were intended to be.
So, as autumn approaches, don’t become depressed as you begin your leaf raking, but instead take that time to think about what internal leaves do you need to rake away to allow yourself to flourish. And also take the time to notice the individual leaves, what makes them different from the rest, how are specific people unique and special to you.
This is my little corner to share with you the things that I want to whisper quietly or bark as loud as i can from the rooftops. My goal is to keep the posts postive and motivational and I would if appreciate any comments you might leave would follow the same spirit.
Hopefully the things I find helpful, motivational and thought provoking might be helpful to you as well. Enjoy the journey with me!